13 Nov 2012

Restore Yourself

I love spending time alone, no I actually crave it....
The silence, to feel peaceful, to restore myself....
Sometimes I need a quiet moment, I need to escape. A good book, a walk on the beach, time in my garden or time alone in my car just driving, it helps me feel free, feel energized.
In the car I crank the music up loud as loud as these old ears will allow and as they say, I sing like no one is listening !!

It doesn't happen often, but when it does I love it.

The purpose of life is to be happy, from deep within we desire contentment. Spending time alone refreshes us, and helps remove any insecurities that we may be feeling.
Spending time alone injects our bodies with energy and power, giving us the strength to carry on.

But is it normal for me to long for these short solitary moments ? Does it make me a bad person, a bad wife, a bad mother ?
I don't always have all the answers, even though I like to think I do but one thing I do know, is that's it's perfectly OK for me to enjoy some time alone, whether it be a single moment to clear my mind and just breathe deeply, or a day of total solitude to refresh my tired body, doing the things that make me happy, that help revive my mind, body and soul, it all contributes to helping me be the best everything that I can be.

Everyone needs time to themselves to survive, to be at their best, to be happy and content within. When we are all these things, it reflects on our families and makes life easier, happier, more complete, and it's much easier to deal with whatever it is that we need to face.

I use to feel guilty when I escaped left my daily duties as mum, wife, homemaker and did something for myself, but I have come to realise that these moments away from the daily grind benefit not only me and my sanity, but that of my family to. When I am happy and at peace, I am easier to get along with, easier to please, and not so easily annoyed, hence how my time out can help my family cogs turn in better harmony, and what could be more peaceful then that !


  1. You read my mind!! I am a social person but if I dont get some alone time most days I feel overwhelmed. Even today, when I didn't have anything to do, I felt guilty. This is not right...so here I am happily reading your blog and others as part of #TeamIbot.

    I relish time alone. It is highly recommended for the recharging of us.

  2. Oh yes, you need to look after yourself first or otherwise you are no use to anyone.
    via #ibot

  3. I need to learn how to take time out, it's been a long time since I've done anything for myself. I'm sure it would make our cogs turn in better harmony over here.
    Prue x
    Ps - love love love the image.

    1. it's a long slow process learning to take time out, and I can assure you that I am still in that learning process...
      Thank you so much for reading x

  4. Really powerful image. Absolutely important to have that time alone, really hard to get at the moment (for me). But ill get there.

    1. It's hard for me to, but when I do make the time, it's so worth it.

  5. I relate to this very much! I am not a good mum unless I have solo time. Even getting away for ten minutes when everything is going pear shaped can make me return a different person.

  6. It certainly is perfectly fine for you to need some alone time, and in no way does it make you a bad person. We need to remember who we are, and we can't always do that when we're surrounded ALL OF THE TIME!
    Sometimes my alone time is nothing more than a nice long shower, but if it's an uninterrupted shower and I get to wash my hair and shave and exfoliate then my god it is bliss! hehehe.
    I'm definitely guilty of not trying for enough alone time. The fact that I used a shower as an example is evidence of that I guess.
    Love your background by the way x

    1. I now have a lock on my bathroom door....
      Sheer bliss :)
      Thank you so much for stopping by x

  7. I love alone time, and especially now that I have kids. You're always giving of yourself, it's important to have some time to recharge. :)

    1. I so agree Jess, it's nice to remember who you are without kids :)xx



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