Raising kids can be tough, and can be a little bit like the Hunger Games. Five percent smooth sailing and ninety five percent fighting for the will to survive. And that is just the odds for the parents.
When the boys were little, every fibre of my being was in survival mode. It was a fight to sleep, a fight to stay awake, a fight to be on time and a fight to stay in control. Having a house full of little bodies all vying for your attention is both physically and mentally exhausting. It's survival of the fittest in any household, but when you have a large family it doesn't rain it pours. I thought that once the boys were grown, things would slow down, my time would become more my own again and the fight to survive would wind down.
Boy how I was wrong....
If anything, now that my boys are grown our household is amidst a fight for survival unlike any we have been in before. Its not about time outs and bed time fights, and its more then fighting for the first shower, the TV remote or the last glass of juice. It has grown into something so much more and I am proud that we are fighting the fight together as a family all on one page and that we are all there for each other no matter what.
For the last two years we have been a household of four. Two parents, two teens, with our older boys out living on their own and doing very well for themselves. Making us proud with their choices and how they were learning to tackle life without the cushion of mum and dad constantly around. They did real good, until like it sometimes does, life kicked them in the butt and shattered their confidence, and like so many others out there, my boys lost their jobs.
It is hard for a parent to witness their child go through something that shakes their very core. You spend so many years of their lives fighting for them, only to feel useless when all you want to do is go into bat for them, to show their employers that they are making a huge mistake, but your hands are tied.
As a family we have turned this negative into a positive. We have come together as a family to support those of us in need. We have moved the independent sons back home
So once again we are whole, back together and each of us fighting to be heard. The kids are sharpening their claws, the parents sharpening our whits. The fight for survival is once again upon us and although we have each others backs, it is also back to looking after ones self in the fight to survive.
AND MAY THE ODDS BE EVER IN YOUR FAVOUR
beck xx
Linking up with the lovely Kylie for another round of IBOT
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Keep fighting the good fight. As parents, I don't think it ever ends.
ReplyDeleteIt's certainly the fight for life that's for sure xx
DeleteI'm so sorry to read this but so happy that your boys have your support and love. It's a tough world out there. I hope they find something new soon.
ReplyDeleteThank you. The right job will come along for both of them I am sure. Staying positive and having support will help them through xx
DeleteOh Beck, that is hard, I really feel for you. They are lucky boys to have you as a Mum, and to know you've got their back. I will send all my good wishes your way that you're able to work through it together and survive xx
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Thanks Kylie, I have no doubt that everything will work out. It will just take a bit of adjusting for us all xx
DeleteThere's nothing better than the loving support of your family when life throws you unexpected curveballs!
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So true Ingrid. Just glad we are in the position to help them both out x
DeleteYour boys are lucky to have your support. I hope things turn around and they find new employment soon! :)
ReplyDeleteDi from Max The Unicorn
Thanks Di, hopefully things turn around soon for them both x
DeleteI'm not a parent, but as a kid of a parent, I can see how the early years were actually the easy part. Parents can fix all our problems when we're kids but the older we get, the more complex our problems become, with finances, careers, relationships and general navigation of life, and there's no quick fix, even for super hero parents. I guess, as you guys are doing, parents can't always solve problems but they can always be there for their kids. And that love and support is priceless. High five, mumma!
ReplyDeleteThe early years were much easier for sure. It's difficult to watch your kids go through tough times no matter what their age. I know things will turn around, we all just need to be patient (cough) until then we are there for them no matter what xx
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry to hear about your son's jobs! But they are both lucky to have such supportive parents and siblings!
ReplyDeleteThank you Paula xx
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