18 Jun 2013

Finding Balance

Problems arise in that one has to find a balance
between what people need from you
and what you need for yourself



Being a Libra, my star sign is the scale, which signifies balance. Lately there has not been a lot of balance in my universe, and I was beginning to think that I was loosing my mind. I'm not of course I hope, it is just my mind playing tricks on me.

On a recent blog post, a dear friend asked me if I put to much pressure on myself ?
I guess the answer to that question could very well be yes.....

I am my own worst enemy. When things go wrong it is me that I blame, I always manage to find someway to take full responsibility even when I know deep down that sometimes it is others at fault. It is second nature to me and although it frustrates my family, I have found it hard to change my ways.
Recent events have forced me to re-evaluate myself. To dig deep inside and try to figure out why I am once again only seeing faults in myself.

I have decided that I need to find some sort of balance in my life. With balance, I am hoping to free myself, to figure out how to pull myself together and live a happy fulfilling life once again. It is not only for me that this is important, but also my family. I am being very unfair to them, and I am the only one who can turn this around.


I need to get a handle on the various elements in my life
so that I don't feel like I am being pulled in so many directions

The big question is...What does Life Balance really mean ?
How do I go about achieving it in the midst of my craziness ?


I need to find steps to take that will change what isn't working in my life. I need to better equip myself so that I can once again find some balance and take back some control. I need to take baby steps, and not change everything at once but take my time to adjust and determine what will work for me.



  • I need to acknowledge my state of mind and how I am feeling. 
  • I need to be honest with myself and others about my feelings and take notice of the areas in my life that I am neglecting.
  • I need to set goals for myself to achieve, take baby steps and not be afraid to move forward.
  • I need to acknowledge my past accomplishments and take from them the positive and not dwell on the negative.
  • I need to get a grip on my fears, doubts, anxieties, worries and negative self talk and find a way to channel the positive.


Basically to find balance, I need to change the way that I look at things and aim to find the positive in the small everyday parts of life. I need to stop over thinking and pay attention to what is really going on, I have to stop looking for what is not there !!

I am going to do my best to reconnect with myself and more importantly my family, after all they need me at my best. I need to be strong so that I can be there for them without doubt.

When it all boils down to it, I need to Remember fun - I need to Laugh, joke, play. 
I need to find my sense of humor as there is no greater medicine then a good old fashioned belly laugh.........

BELIEVE...DREAM...BALANCE


Linking up with the gorgeous Jess for another week of IBOT 
:)

19 comments:

  1. It is so true, to find balance you need to change the way you see the world! A great post, balance is a difficult one to find with children!

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    1. Trying trying very hard to change how I'm looking at things. It's not easy, but I'm hoping to find my way xx

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  2. I agree with Eleise that balance is hard with kids and sometimes when you feel like all is going ok, things need to be changed again to counterbalance.

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    1. It can be hard, it is so easy to loose ourselves and our way. We spend so much time taking care of others that we neglect ourselves. Thank you for stopping by x

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  3. Visiting via IBOT and wishing you balance - with so much male (yang) energy in your household it must be hard to find time for yourself, including some yin time. I blog at yinyangmother and have been exploring balance for a while - I reckon we are born to balance but we lose it along the way, when we lose ourselves a bit. Good luck in the journey.

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  4. Thank you, and yes time for me can be rare but it's the same for all parents I would imagine. I will be stopping by your blog, thank you for sharing it with me x

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  5. There is nothing better than a belly laugh Beck. Hang in there, you've weathered worst storms and can get through this me thinks! Em x

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    1. Thanks Em, going to do my very best xx

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  6. This post could have been written about me! I hope you can find that balance, it's not easy to do but I wish you all the best!

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  7. Good luck finding your balance. First step is recognising there needs to be changes, so you are on the way :)

    Hello from #teamIBOT

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  8. Beautiful post Beck. You have so much to give, I think blogging is helping you come out from years of 'other's' and assess where you stand in this universe. It's a journey and we are all here walking it with you. 'hold hands' 'link arms' and BIG HUGS. You have an amazing writing ability. Love reading your posts.

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    1. You don't realise just how much your kind words and encouragement help me. Thank you my wonderful friend xx

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  9. What a great post Beck - and so very true !!! It will all happen for you so long as you take baby steps, and keep moving forward.
    I found that when I tried to change too many things are once, nothing got changed and it all fell over.
    It is a slow process and don't be disappointed when you have set backs - just start again.
    Have the best day possible !
    Love, hugs and positive energy !
    Me

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    1. Thank you, I am so glad to have found you out there in this incredible "cyber" world. The love, hugs and positive energy are just what I need right now xx

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  10. This is all so true Beck! You really do have to start thinking of yourself, like most mums you're the glue that holds the family together.
    Finding balance is tricky, but so worth it.
    Take care xx

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    1. I have a fear of letting my family down. I really need to pull it altogether so that I can be the glue that they need.
      Thank you so much for stopping by xx

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  11. I needed to read this today Beck. I've been going flat our just lately, and whilst I love it to a degree, the balance is off. Not entirely sure how to fix it though :(

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    1. It's so tricky to keep things together, so glad that by reading this you know that you are not alone. I am hoping that I can find a way to put things back into perspective, life is so hard, simple would be oh so good. Hang in there Jess, I know that somehow you and I will find a way to set things back on track xx

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